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Morning Thoughts: Jokes?

Whatever happened to blond jokes?   I know that they are politically incorrect and perpetuate the myth that blonds are dumb.  But so many of the blond jokes are honestly just funny, and as a blond I never had trouble with people treating me as stupid.  Though, if I'm being truly honest, I did have men assume I couldn't play pool.  I had a friend named Kathy who was a natural brunette; we would sometimes go to the Yucatan Liquor Stand and scam a free pool table from unsuspecting guys.  Hmmmm... Anyway, my favorite blond joke?  What do you call a blond who dyes her hair brunette? Artificial intelligence.

Morning Thoughts

Have you ever dreamed about flying or meeting a dragon or running to the mall, only to have the plot of the dream take a turn towards finding an open bathroom?  You run around and see toilets everywhere, but they are either currently being used or out in the open or in a tiny cube?  Then you wake up and realize that  you actually need to go pee, and your body's been trying to interrupt your dream? Yeah, that's the kind of morning I'm having.


I've had strange dreams this week. I wake up feeling sticky inside and out. It's as though everything is offset by just a touch. I feel guilty and horrible and slightly sick to my stomach. I find my mind cluttered with moments in time where I screwed up. Times that I want to do again. Does life have do-overs? I need a do-over or two. I try to forgive myself. I tell myself, "Kathryn, let it go.  Forgive yourself, because you cannot change it now." I know that I learned my lesson. For each time I remember, I know what I would do know. I know how to avoid the situation or at least to react. But the guilt remains. I sometimes feel time slip through my fingers, through my hands. Like sand or water or opportunities not taken. My head refuses to stop thinking, but it also refuses to focus. Fuzzy dreams, fuzzy thoughts, cloud my head until I have trouble seeing the world around me. Reality fades on me sometimes. I feel like a jack of all trades at life.

Women Get Harassed In Public Restrooms

Earlier this week, I watched a video where Aimee Tom discusses a situation where some strange woman yelled at her for being in the women's restroom.  Why?  No one knows with complete certainty, but it's probably because the woman mistook Aimee for a transgender man.  Aimee brings up a multitude of good points, so I suggest you watch the video and then continue reading. Now, I admit I'm not a conservative and I truly don't care which bathroom a person uses.  I may not understand what it feels like to be transgender, but I also don't understand what it feels like to be a man.  But I still accept both transgender people and men. Sadly, as I was looking for the original video to include, I found two other videos of egregious behavior.  In the first one, a man attempts to follow a woman into the ladies' room.  When she confronts him, he leaves but only after he blames her because she was wearing a man's clothes.   This second video is even worse.

Saturday Thoughts: Equality vs Equity

My Reaction to John Oliver's Take on "Studies"

I enjoy watching "Last Week Tonight with John Oliver" every week.  I actually subscribe to HBONow, but I don't stay up late enough to watch on Sunday nights.  Instead, my husband and I watch it together every Monday. This last episode, John Oliver covers the problems present with all of the "scientific studies" referenced by media, specifically how the media misreports science.  I'm including the video of this segment below if you want to watch it, though I caution you that it's not necessarily safe for work. After watching this, I felt a bit guilty because I don't include links to all the studies I read for various posts, mostly because the studies themselves are quite boring to read.  There's nothing like a bunch of scientific jargon to put a person to sleep. Note:  If I ever cite a study and you want to read it, let me know.  I will try to include links from now on. But I think that John Oliver could have explained a few more bi

What is the Gender Pay Gap?

Embed from Getty Images While I avoid labeling myself a "feminist" because of the overabundance of man-hating rhetoric associated with modern feminism, I do want to contribute to the burgeoning equality of our society.  A few weeks ago, online media spewed a plethora of articles about the question, is there a gender pay gap?  What I found missing was a definition of "gender pay gap" and why it's important. What does "gender pay gap" mean? gender pay gap:  the difference in the amount of money earned between two people of disparate genders for similar work, with the difference rooted in gender as opposed to other factors That's my definition, and in simple English it means that for every dollar a man makes in the workplace, a woman makes statistically less than a dollar.  For clarity, I haven't found any data for transgender or other non-cis people, so I am leaving them out of the discussion for the moment. Several studies h

Wordless Wednesday: Traffic Rule #37

An Honest Explanation About My Absence

Wow - this is a lot harder than I thought it would be.  I am writing today to explain my sometimes strange - or sometimes nonexistent - posting schedule. I suffer from depression. No, I'm not talking about feeling blue for a few days or feeling a bit under the weather.  But full-blown, colors all look gray, can't see the room I'm in, walk around like a badly handled puppet depression. I can't point to a day and say, "That's it!  That's when my depression started" because honestly, I don't remember not living with depression.  Even as a child, I suffered bouts of depression that got worse when puberty started, better when puberty ended, then worse again as I attempted to navigate life as an adult. Some days I'm fine, and I accomplish a lot of tasks.  Some days I feel like I have a limit on how much emotional energy I have.  And some days I struggle to get out of bed and get dressed.  Not brush my teeth or take a shower or even face my f